Tuesday, the first week of Lent
Mass at noon: Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday - Thursday at 7p
Saturday at 5:00 - Sunday at 9:00, 11:15am and 7:00pm during the semester
When the people gather for prayer, all are welcome.
Saint of the day - Jacinta, Francisco and Marto
Readings for today’s Mass
Forgiveness has to be one of the most difficult challenges in the life of any Christian. On the other hand NOT forgiving was once described as "drinking poison yourself fully expecting it to kill your enemy." Another writer said that holding grudges "is like burning down your house to eradicate a few mice." Not forgiving is self-destructive. God would not have it that way. A full, abundant, loving life virtually requires us to forgive. God does not need to "punish" someone filled with grudges; their not forgiving is already a life in hell.
The Dalai Lama offers a simple definition of forgiveness: It is "simply suspending ill-will toward another who has caused you pain." Note that he doesn't say "forget" the pain or reconcile with the person. Forgiving is something I decide to do for my own good, for the good of the community. I decide to "suspend" ill-will. Reconciliation may never happen because it requires both of us to enter the process, which often never happens.
One final suggestion about forgiveness. About 20 years ago, I was hurt badly by a person I trusted. Forgiveness took a long time -- about a year -- after which I decided that every time I thought of the person or the incident, I would offer a silent blessing: "Gracious God, bless (name)." We never reconciled, but I felt immense relief once I chose to forgive. It might be worth a try this Lent to forgive one person.