Roncalli Newman Parish Marriage Forms
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First of all, contact the Deacon David Allen, our marriage prep coordinator, to get things started.
Our Marriage Preparation Process:
Couples who want to be married at Roncalli Newman Parish are asked to participate in our preparation program. It is our sincere effort to help your relationship grow by deepening your readiness for marriage. As this will be one of the most important decisions of your life, a responsible choice for marriage can only be made after a good hard look at its demands, your abilities, and the insights your Catholic heritage brings to matters of love, married friendship, the blessings of children, and your calling to heal the world. Most couples find that beginning this preparation nine to twelve months in advance of the wedding is preferable.
Steps in the Process:
1. Request to have your wedding at Roncalli Newman Parish. When you approach the parish for marriage, you will be asked to make an appointment with the associate pastor, Fr. Matthew Marshall. He will want to get to know you, assess the appropriateness of your request, give you an overview of the preparation process, and, if it is appropriate, begin some of the initial paperwork. No wedding dates will be reserved in the parish calendar until this face-to-face meeting takes place, so please don't hesitate to contact Fr. Marshall or call the parish office (Cherie @ 608.784.4994) to request an appointment.
2. Assemble important documents:
- Certificate of Baptism - from the church where each were baptized (Catholics should include notation of Confirmation).
- "Application to Marry" Form - which will be filled out with the pastor/clergy.
- Marriage License - (from the state) will need to be presented at the wedding rehearsal.
3. Complete the online FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study) assessment. Fr. Marshall will set you up with the necessary information to access the online assessment. He or a married couple from the parish will then guide you through the FOCCUS assessment process. Regardless of what you may hear about "that marriage test," the FOCCUS instrument is not an examination you can flunk, and it is not designed to predict marital success or breakdown. The tool simply organizes your opinions and attitudes about your relationship in light of what has proven important for other married people. After one of the parish's FOCCUS couples has been assigned to you, it is your responsibility to contact them and then follow through with the three, four, or five appointments needed to review the instrument.
For more information about FOCCUS, please visit - http://www.foccusinc.com/.
4. Attend a Marriage Preparation Retreat hosted by a parish in our diocese. Please see the Diocese of La Crosse Marriage Preparation page for a list of upcoming dates and contact information for a retreat near you.
5. Discuss your faith with your pastor. The greatly-overlooked asset in the recipe for a successful marriage is essential for an active and growing faith life. Fr. Marshall will want to explore your growth as believers and how you might build a strong, faith-filled Christian home together.
6. Receive instruction in Natural Family Planning (click button below for more information).
7. Plan your wedding ceremony. You will make choices about readings, etc. with the priest, but musical selections will be make in consult with the parish's wedding music coordinator, Mary Blaha-DeBoer (608.780.5780) - firstname.lastname@example.org. Contact her about booking musicians at the same time that you set your date with our parish secretary!!! The actual ceremony planning can wait until a few months before the wedding; family/friends with musical ability are encouraged to participate!